I seem to be starting off the year on a major No kick. (See also: this previous post.)
But I think there is so much value in learning to choose what we do with our time and energy. Let me tell you about my best no ever.
About a year ago, I applied for an internship at The Wonder Jam. Not only did I apply, but I showed up at the open house group interview wearing an 8-month-old baby on my chest because I couldn’t find child care that day. Unsurprisingly, I wasn’t offered the internship. (I actually don’t think the baby had anything to with that, though.)
The rejection e-mail was genuine, kind, and personal. This was a marked improvement from the (probably literally) one hundred jobs I applied to between 2010-2016 that I just never heard from. At the end, Adam wrote,
I hope to receive an email from you one day that goes something like this:“Yo Adam,I just wanted to let you know that I’m super successful now and you didn’t select me for an internship and you probably made a mistake. Right now I’m super successful doing _________________________. ”
Which is definitely the nicest way anyone has ever turned me down! I wrote back asking if he could recommend any business coaches to help me fill in the blank. This was kind of an awkward question because, uh, he does business coaching…I just couldn’t afford his rates. We got to talking and he offered to barter my writing services for part of the coaching fee! I ended up paying less than my max budget out of pocket, but I know now that even at full price it would have been the best investment ever.
When we met for our first coaching meeting (sans baby this time), he said that after talking to me and reviewing my application, he believed that I didn’t need to do an internship. I needed to be out doing my own thing.
He was right.
Together we made a plan for filling in that blank. A year later, by the measures I’ve defined (because really, those are the ones that matter), I’m super successful doing writing, design, and teaching.
And that’s the story of my best no ever.
I love this. It’s so important to remain hopeful and to always ask. People who go into business coaching WANT to help. That really is a great no story.
This is such a great reminder. And, of course, I can hear you saying this to me as I read it! ❤️
I applied for hundreds of jobs and heard nothing back. I have a healthy roster of names of companies of people who “didn’t pick me” living in my brain and it’s not lost on me that The Wonder Jam is part of the same roster in the brain of more than a few people.
I’ve had so many rejections that they all just roll off my back at this point!